    {"id":4642,"date":"2022-05-05T14:29:54","date_gmt":"2022-05-05T07:29:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/?p=4642"},"modified":"2022-05-05T14:29:54","modified_gmt":"2022-05-05T07:29:54","slug":"what-is-self-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/2022\/05\/05\/what-is-self-love\/","title":{"rendered":"WHAT IS SELF-LOVE?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><a href=\"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/24\/2022\/05\/Screen-Shot-2022-05-05-at-14.21.17.png\"><br \/>\n<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/24\/2022\/05\/Screen-Shot-2022-05-05-at-14.21.30.png\"><br \/>\n<\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">These days, many people know the word \u201cself-love\u201d as the meaning to love ourselves. Learning about how well you know yourself and how you treat yourself and others. However, do we really know what \u201cself-love\u201d is? Based on the word, maybe you could tell that it is the process of loving and making ourselves happy. However, do we really know what kind of happiness is that? Although some people think that loving themselves can be called selfish and careless towards other people, self-love is not that negative and is more complicated than you think.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><i><\/i><a href=\"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/24\/2022\/05\/Screen-Shot-2022-05-05-at-14.21.30.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-4644 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/24\/2022\/05\/Screen-Shot-2022-05-05-at-14.21.30.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"394\" height=\"315\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Self-love is an important aspect of life that can improve health and longevity by motivating humans to strive for their own good. Self-love is an act of loving oneself by being responsible, respectful, and understanding oneself (Fromm 1947).<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">On the other hand, Chinese people are more specific about what self-love is and how we self-protect and self-control. Chinese scholars believe that self-love includes not only taking good care of your body but also respecting, pleasing, and valuing your body\u2019s abilities, reputation, position, characters, and future (Lin et al., 2003; Yang, 2009, p. 66; Huang, 2017, p. 56).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Based on research from the Faculty of Psychology, Southwest University, Chongqing, China, there are some components of self-love:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify\">\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Self-cherishing<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Appreciate all of you and know that life is not about competition but about how to appreciate and enjoy life. Thinking \u201cI Am Important\u201d will help you appreciate your body, health, work, and family. You should always be kind and caring not only to yourself but to others too.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify\">\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Self-acceptance<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Understanding that no one is perfect as everyone has flaws will help us accept ourselves to know what we need to improve by exploring and learning new things to help us achieve our goals. Therefore, it will help us realize that there is no point in making ourselves better to get others\u2019 approval.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify\">\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Self-persistence<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">To organize our lives according to what we want, we must have principles and boundaries to know our limits and improve our self-control. It will help us distinguish what we like and what we don\u2019t like while removing any unnecessary conflicts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify\">\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Self-responsibility<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">All human beings have their responsibilities, and we have to do our obligations and responsibilities to show how reliable we are to ourselves and others.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Self-resistant<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Knowing what is right and wrong will help you choose your decisions wisely so you can fight off bad things happening to yourself. As doing bad things is considered self-ignorant, try to reflect and act towards your definition of rights.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">But this self-love should not be done excessively. Why? Anything in excess will lead to bad things. Excessive self-love can cause people to become more selfish and narcissistic because they don\u2019t accept other people\u2019s opinions and only care about themselves. We feel that we are always right and everyone is wrong, and that mindset can be justified as greed, not self-love. As self-love is an act of caring towards yourself and others, you should always cherish other people too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/24\/2022\/05\/Screen-Shot-2022-05-05-at-14.21.17.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter  wp-image-4643\" src=\"http:\/\/student-activity.binus.ac.id\/bnec\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/24\/2022\/05\/Screen-Shot-2022-05-05-at-14.21.17.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"401\" height=\"227\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Therefore, we have to understand self-love in a more positive way. Spending time with yourself is really important. Self-love is living and doing good things for oneself, not for the sake of others while remembering to be kind to others. As loving someone is easier than loving yourself, the act of self-love isn\u2019t an easy thing to do. Through struggles in fighting off all the negative things in our head, accepting all your weaknesses and strengths would be a struggle for you to boost your confidence level in becoming a better person. Thus, self-love is important because it is the key for us to achieve our own happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify\"><br style=\"font-weight: 400\" \/><br style=\"font-weight: 400\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">References:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Fatmawati, Winnie. (2019). Melihat Bahaya Self Love Berlebih. Akurat.co, 17\/11\/2019 access on 12 April 2022 at 20:43 PM. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/akurat.co\/melihat-bahaya-self-love-berlebih\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">https:\/\/akurat.co\/melihat-bahaya-self-love-berlebih<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Mutiwasekwa, Sarah Len. (2019).Self-Love: You cannot love someone else until you learn to love yourself. PsychologyToday.com, 12\/11\/2019 access on 12 April 2022 at 20:12 PM. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-upside-things\/201911\/self-love\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-upside-things\/201911\/self-love<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Xue, L. M., Huang, X. T., Wu, N., &amp; Yue, T. (2021). A Qualitative Exploration of Chinese Self-Love. <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Frontiers in psychology<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">12<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/jacobinmag.com\/2020\/08\/erich-fromm-frankfurt-school-marxism-weimar-germany<\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/www.inc.com\/sujan-patel\/15-ways-to-become-a-happier-person.html<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>These days, many people know the word \u201cself-love\u201d as the meaning to love ourselves. Learning about how well you know yourself and how you treat yourself and others. However, do we really know what \u201cself-love\u201d is? Based on the word, maybe you could tell that it is the process of loving and making ourselves happy. 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